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“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6)
These early years are immensely important in the development and future success of a child.
We’ve had a really great start at Kiddie Kollege Preschool! We have been getting to know each other, learning the letter “N”, and learning the routine of preschool. We talked about nocturnal animals, so you might point out when you hear an owl in the evening or see a raccoon or skunk. At home you can continue the learning by offering noodles to eat, look for “N” at the football game (we marched to the Nebraska Fight Song!), and look for “N” in many different places.
Next week we will be learning about the letter “R” as we learn about Omaha through River City Roundup. River City Roundup is a celebration that Omaha commemorates every year to remember beginning days of the city and, also, acknowledge the very early people who lived on this land, the Native Americans. There are many activities along with a parade down by the river during the last couple weeks of September. The children are invited to wear Western clothing (cowboys, cowgirls, Native American), if they wish, to Kiddie Kollege on Wednesday, 20th and Thursday, 21st.
I have a very special book that shows how much Jesus really loves each of us. This special book has no words or pictures, the colors tell it all.
Page 1 – Black – the Bible tells us that everyone has sinned. (Romans 3:23) Sin is anything I think, say, or do that does not please God.
Do you feel good when you do something wrong? No! We feel dirty and in a dark mood. These bad things keep us separated from God. God even said that the punishment for sin is death! (Romans 6:23)
Page 2 – Red – The only way to take care of this sin was for someone to die in our place. So, God loved us so much that he sent Jesus to die and take that punishment for us. The Bible tells us that even while we were still sinners, God showed his love for us and allowed Christ to die in our place. (Romans 5:8)
Page 3 – White – The Bible says Jesus’ blood washed away our sin. His blood makes us as white as snow. All we have to do is believe that Jesus died for us. Jesus died for you and he died for me. If you believe that Jesus died for you, you are made clean and white, whiter than snow (Isaiah 1:18) and then you become God’s child. (John 1:12)
Page 4 – Green – Green always symbolizes growth. When you are born into God’s family, God wants you to grow too. When we are babies, we need the pure milk of the Word of God (Bible). As we read and learn more about God, we grow as his child. (I Peter 2:2)
Page 5 – Yellow – Right now Jesus is in heaven preparing beautiful homes for us. If you are a child of God, when your body dies, you will go to heaven to be with Jesus. The Bible tells us that in heaven the streets are pure gold! Can you imagine that? Think about walking on pure gold streets! And there will be no more crying, no sickness, no hurts. It’s a beautiful place to be. God wants us to know for sure that we are going to heaven when we die. The Apostle John states it twice. Once in the Gospel of John 20:30, 31, “Jesus did many other miraculous signs in the presence of his disciples, which are not recorded in this book. But these are written that you may believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God, and that by believing you may have life in his name.” In his first epistle he is writing to those who have taken the step to believe. He says, “I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God, so that you may know that you have eternal life.” (I John 5:13)
John 3:16 sums it all up – “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him, should not perish (die) but have eternal life.”
- PRAYER: Thank you, Jesus, for dying on the cross and taking the punishment for my sins. I believe that you died for me. Please come in and make me your child. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
If you prayed that prayer, or if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me anytime.
Don’t make me count to three! How many times have those words come out of your mouth? It’s time to talk about one of the hardest parts of being a parent; how to discipline your child. Everyone has an opinion about the best way to do it, but we aren’t here to dictate the best way to you. Today, we want to give you some insight as to why your child misbehaves and hopefully give you some solutions to help you.
As parents it is our job to reinforce good behavior and lessons with consistency, patience and compassion, but what is the best way to do that? Have you ever thought to yourself, why is my child acting this way? In order to be the best parent we can be, it is important to get past the behavior and look at the motivation behind it.
Take a few minutes and look at this video on discipline. We will address some issues that we all have to address with our children. Later, we will dig a little deeper and give you some ideas and suggestions.
It’s been a while since I posted Part One of this topic. I hope your New Year’s resolutions for healthy habits are going well. This is a reminder check and has important points to remember during this cold and flu season.
It is hard to keep new habits. We so often want to go back to our old selves. You must remember that if you have and keep healthy habits it will be much easier for your child to do the same. They look up to you and take their cues from you! Here are some examples and ideas that may make implementing healthy habits into your lives a bit easier.
Take care of your body!
- Teach your child to cover their mouth when they cough or sneeze. We talk in Kiddie Kollege about our cough or sneeze pocket, which is their elbow. If they cough or sneeze into their elbow they won’t be touching other things with the germs on their hands.
- Make sure that you teach your child the importance of washing hands. Germs are everywhere, especially this time of year. Now, we don’t want you to turn into a hypochondriac, but washing your hands can ward off so many illnesses! Make sure that your child has everything they need to accomplish this task. Have a stool handy so they can reach. Put fun soap in the bathroom, make it fun for them.
- Make sure that your child knows the importance of staying safe inside the car. Always buckle your seat belt and ensure that they are always strapped in properly.
- When playing outside, always have sunscreen available to prevent sunburns.
- Show them the proper way to brush their teeth and help them brush and floss. Make regular visits to the dentist a priority. The dentist can be intimidating for kids and adults. Find a good pediatric dentist in your area. Help children to see that always taking care of our teeth can make visits much easier!
- Get plenty of sleep. It can be very tempting to bend the bedtime rules, especially if you have a child who is reluctant to go to bed. Stand firm. They need a good nights sleep as much as you do. It’s important for their growth and development. Help them to understand how sleep is important for our bodies.
Childhood obesity is a very serious problem. There is a common misconception that eating healthy is harder or more expensive. Anything can be made a daily habit with the proper research and planning. Our children will only want junk food if all they eat is junk food. You are responsible for the food that is in your home. Do your best to only provide a variety of healthy choices for snacks and meals for them. This way they can try different foods and discover what they do and do not like. Help them to understand the nutritional value of fruits and vegetables. Make sure that they don’t skip breakfast. They need fuel to get them through their day. Allow your child to help you in the kitchen. They are more likely to try something that they helped to make! Also, limit the amount of sweet drinks your child consumes. Make sure they are drinking plenty of water.
Children are very busy by nature, but due to increased television and video game exposure inactivity can become a bad habit. The American Heart Association recommends that children age two and older have at least 60 minutes of moderate-intensity activity per day. Not every child will excel at sports, so it is important to help your child find activities that they enjoy. Reports have shown that more of two hours of daily tv time can lead to impaired performance at school, behavior difficulties and obesity. Become active as a family. Find things to do together!
Sometimes children can become easily discouraged and upset. Help your child understand the importance of being resilient and staying positive. Praise your child when they are kind to others, accomplish something difficult for them or follow directions. Watch your own mood, it can rub off on your child! Encourage your children to participate in things they enjoy and introduce them to new experiences and people. This will also help them to develop social skills and make new friendships.
New Year’s Resolutions may seem silly or frivolous to some, but it can be a good idea to take a look at ourselves and identify areas that may need improvement. Maybe there are some things on this list that you need to work on yourselves! Make it a family project. Choose some new habits and make them a family priority. This will encourage your children and you to be healthy in the new year! Use this as a reminder to look at what you resolved to do at the beginning of January. How are you doing? Don’t give up if you have fallen off. Pick yourself up and continue working on these good habits.
Happy New Year! We are ready to start off this new year in a wonderful way! Every January we are bombarded with images and stories of resolutions. A new year seems to be the ideal time to head off with a new outlook, a fresh start. This applies to your children too! Have you ever considered that this could be a time of new habits for them too? You are the one who can help set healthy habits for your child.
Click here for a video with comments and suggestions about how to instill healthy habits in your children.
Hopefully by now you are all getting in the Christmas spirit. We have finished with all of our Thanksgiving traditions and now it is time to prepare for the most wonderful time of the year! Sometimes even though we try our hardest to be present and remember the true reason for the season, it can be easy for our children to get caught up in the materialistic aspects of the holiday.
How can you help your child understand that Jesus should be our focus at Christmas? How do we teach them the joy in giving and not turn into miniature Scrooges? This month, we want to help you in teaching your children to truly enjoy and celebrate Christmas and the gift of Jesus.
One thing to do is to read about the original Christmas event to your children as a part of the preparations and celebrations. The first Christmas is recorded in the Gospel of Luke, chapter 2:
About this time (the time when John (later called “the Baptist”) was growing up), Caesar Augustus, the Roman Emperor, decreed that a census should be taken throughout the empire. Everyone was required to return to his ancestral home for this registration. Because Joseph was a member of the royal line in Israel, he had to go to Bethlehem in Judea, King David’s ancient home–journeying there from Nazareth of Galilee. He took with him Mary, his fiancee, who was obviously pregnant by this time. (This pregnancy was from God and the child was the Son of God.)
While they were in Bethlehem, the time came for her baby to be born; and she gave birth to her first child, a son. She wrapped him in a blanket and laid him in a manger (the animals’ feeding box), because there was no room for them in the village inn.
That night some shepherds were in the fields outside the village, guarding their flocks of sheep. Suddenly an angel appeared among them, and the landscape shone bright with the glory of the Lord. They were very frightened, but the angel reassured them.
“Don’t be afraid!” he said. “I bring you the most joyful news ever announced, and it is for everyone! The Savior–yes, the Messiah, the Lord, the One you have been waiting for that was promised centuries ago–has been born tonight in Bethlehem! How will you recognize him? You will find a baby wrapped in a blanket, lying in a manger!”
Suddenly, the sky was full of angels glorifying and praising God!
“Glory to God in the highest heaven,” they sang, “and peace on earth to all with whom God is pleased!”
When this great army of angels had returned to heaven, the shepherds said to each other, “Come on! Let’s go to Bethlehem! Let’s see this wonderful thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.”
So they ran to the village and found their way to Mary and Joseph. And there was the baby, lying in a manger. When the shepherds left, they told everyone what had happened and what they saw. All who heard the shepherds’ story were amazed, but Mary quietly treasured these things in her heart. (Taken from Luke 2).
Listen to some more thoughts about teaching our children about Christmas by clicking here.
We started talking about comparing our children with other people’s children and how negative that can be. Instead of comparing, let’s be thankful for our children and who they are.
Have you ever had one of those days when you just barely make it out the door? House is a wreck, you haven’t had a shower today and the kids are already fighting. Your parenting self esteem has already taken a hit when you run into that family. You know the one: they look like they just stepped out of the pages of a magazine, kids are behaving perfectly and mom has brought homemade goodies for the kids to share. How do they do it? Why can’t we do that? Why can’t our child excel like theirs? Sometimes you feel like a parenting what-not-to-do.
It is completely normal to compare ourselves and our kids to others. Unfortunately, we often can pick out our own faults and flaws and they seem to be amplified next to those “perfect people”. The truth is that no parent and no child is perfect. Even those seemingly perfect families have their own problems, too. So what can we do when we catch ourself falling into the comparison trap?
- Remember that milestone development is relative. Of course you want to make sure that your child’s development is on track, but obsessing over it is not helpful. Don’t let others set the standard for where your child should be. Talk with your child’s pediatrician. If they are comfortable with how your child is growing, you should be too. If you don’t trust your pediatrician, you need to find a new doctor.
- Don’t turn parenting into a competition. Being a parent is hard, even on a good day. Why make it even harder by setting unrealistic expectations on yourself and especially on your child? Every family has their own set of issues that they struggle with every day, some just hide it better than others! You never know what someone else may be dealing with behind closed doors.
- Realize that comparisons can steal your joy. Why purposely invite any sort of conflict into your life? We should be striving to be joyful and to find joy everyday. Comparisons can lead to envy and jealousy. Proverbs 14:30 states “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.” Find parent friends who are supportive rather than competitive and be that friend to others.
- Be able to admit and own weaknesses, and at the same time recognize and utilize strengths. What is your child good at? Celebrate that and let them know that you are proud of them. Help them to find activities and projects that interest them and that they enjoy. Your child is a unique individual who has things they are good at…do you know what they are or are you too focused on what they cannot do? Apply this to yourself as a parent as well. You may not be the best goodie-baker, but you tell the best stories.
Take a good look at your child. Are they happy, healthy, safe and loved? Congratulations, you are a good parent. Ultimately, these are the things that are important. Enjoy your children for who God created them to be and appreciate the job you have been blessed with as their parent.
From time to time I will be adding parenting information that I hope will be useful to you as you raise your child to be happy, healthy and productive. I will also post short snippets on our Facebook page that relate to the article topic.
The current article is about comparisons, that is, comparing our children with other children, or comparing our children with our own expectations of what children “should” be doing. One thing we, as parents, need to remember is to be thankful for our children just the way they are.
Being a parent is hard work and sometimes we wonder if we are doing a good job? We hear about other families, other people’s kids and it can be easy for doubt to creep in. Comparing ourselves to others is natural and depending on the situation can either make you feel like parent of the year or a total failure. The last thing you want to hear about when you were up all night with your ten month old is how someone else’s two month old is sleeping through the night! Or how about running into that mom who is always perfectly put together when you can’t remember the last time you got a shower?
Comparisons can be harmful to our self esteem and our outlook on how we are managing. It’s easy to fall into this trap. Before we close the blinds and shut ourselves off from all human contact, we have to realize that we all have good and bad days. No one has completely mastered being a parent!
Take some time to check out this month’s video to see how we can deal with those moments we feel like we don’t measure up. Later this month, you will receive some tools to help you when you are playing the comparison game.
Here is the link to the video: https://vimeo.com/parentministry/review/90162336/2b9dba9f43
We have had two and a half full weeks of school and the children are adjusting well. They are learning to say good-bye to mom or dad and are getting used to a new routine with new friends.
So far we have gotten to know each others’ names and some of the children are getting practice writing their own names. They are also learning to write numbers as they become acquainted with 1-5.
With the letter “N” we learned about nocturnal animals and practiced getting around like a bat with echolocation. We learned about some animals that come out at night in Nebraska. We also got to march with the Nebraska football fight song. Maybe some of our children will be able to recognize the letter “N” on football Saturdays during these Fall weekends and even recognize the fight song as the football game is televised.
After learning a little bit about our State of Nebraska, we turned to our City of Omaha with River City Roundup. We were able to dress up as cowboys and cowgirls as we celebrated the founding of this great city. We learned what cowboys/girls used to do on the ranch as they rounded up the cows and entertained themselves at the rodeos. We also played with and identified the color red, a good color for Nebraska, bandanas and the like.
With one week left in September, we will play with the letter “F” as we talk about friends and family and farm animals and their families. We will also have a fire drill on Wednesday and learn how to keep our families safe.
September has been a good month of learning and a lot of new experiences. October promises to be just as exciting with a field trip to the pumpkin patch, a leaf walk, dress up parties, and more.
Wow! I can’t believe this is the last week of school! Where has all the time gone?! The children have grown and learned so much this year! We have truly enjoyed each and every child. Each child has his or her own special qualities and it is true what God says in His Word, “Children are a gift from God.” Let’s treasure their uniqueness at every stage of their lives.
This last week of school we will be doing a final review of what we have learned this past year, and we will be practicing and preparing for our Graduation Ceremony.
You are cordially invited
Kiddie Kollege’s Graduation
Thursday, May 19
Please have your child at school by 6:45 p.m.